Work Your Prosperity! A Guide and A Practice
Contrary to popular opinion, prosperity is a natural process of life. A good life may have more to do with what you don't do than what you do. A lot of what makes life hard work instead of fun is the result of the not-so-great decisions that we make. Some of these decisions may have been made for us when we were young, by the world that we live in. When a bad decision is made, or one of life's unexpected disasters happens, how you choose to deal with it has a lot to do with your overall relationship to joy. Now, I bet you've heard that one before. When you hear statements like "You're choosing to not deal with something and you're not responding appropriately" or "It is your fault" or "You should just get over it or just do it." This is not true. Statements like this are garbage. We operate off a positive dynamic. We are so positive that we must be taught how to operate off a negative dynamic. Well, guess what? For the most part we cannot operate off a negative dynamic. Therefore, we cannot learn how to deal with negative issues. Sixty to eighty percent of the negative occurrences that happen to us were not supposed to happen, because the negative things that happened were not supposed to exist, let alone happen. When negative things do happen, very few of us know how to deal with them.
A way to see this is to look at your life as a journey. Your guidance system was built to travel through prosperity, not disparity.
- When you go off course, you get lost in despair. Most of us have no guidance system for despair, because we were not built for long-term suffering and misery. These experiences are supposed to be short-term realities for us, not a global standard for us to live by.
- When we enter despair, we get lost. Then we make choices in that space and naturally things get worse.
- At some point we accept this as the way of life, which is another level of being lost and farther off course. In most cases, unless you find a way to make contact with someone outside of despair, you have no way of getting out of it on your own. This is true for individuals as well as most societies.
We were constructed for a world very different from this one; otherwise, dealing with despair would be more manageable for us. What this means is that when things get bad, we as a group have no way of keeping them from getting worse. If despair was a disease we'd have no antibodies to defend ourselves against it. If we as a whole could work together on freeing the world from despair, we would find this out. But we keep re-infecting ourselves and each other. Modern anthropological psychology is in the process of verifying the theory that long-term despair is a fairly new thing for us.
What is the answer, then, to our strife? There are two big ones: Stay out of despair and have a system or protocol that can be implemented immediately on your departure from joy. The first one is the hardest to deal with. If you are from an ancestry that did not have problems in the first place, avoiding them is going to be difficult, because your brain does not see them taking form. This is why very intelligent people can make such self-destructive choices. Then we make another self-destructive choice. We get angry at ourselves for making poor choices. We are all intelligent. Maybe very lost, but still intelligent. Some of us become our own worst enemy, not because of our lack of intelligence, but from our abundance of it. Once we believe there is no way out of the situation that we are in, our intelligence backs up our beliefs. When that happens it requires a powerful argument to convince us otherwise. But that is very natural, because our intelligence does not know how to operate in despair. Therefore we cannot find an intelligent way out. Now, when it comes to joy, our intelligence is unlimited. Unfortunately, most of us are lost and a very long way from home. If we choose to stay the course of misery, in about a half a million years, we'll get good at it. By then we will have lost our ability to create, maintain and interact with joy. So much for option one!
Well, let's look at option two: having a reference point that we can organize some information around to use to plot a course out of despair. If you are lost in despair you have no positive reference points. So, what do you do? You use the only reference that you have. The despair! Now, based on what I've just described, I'm sure that sounds strange. Most of us want to run from that which creates despair for us. I want you to run from despair, too. Any time you see despair coming, if you can see it, go! But once you are in despair, go right at it. For a lot of us the fastest way to work our prosperity is to work our misery, despair and suffering. Wow, doesn't that sound like fun!
Work Your Misery! The Top Ten $&%@ List.
O.K. Here we go. I want you to make a list of the top ten things that are creating misery for you. So grab a notebook and let's get to it. Now I can hear you: "Forget this. Let's go surf on the web." There is a good reason for feeling that way. We like to do things that we are good at, and most of us are not good at working our misery. We never will be. You don't have to be brilliant at it; just a little bit better than you are now. This will take about five minutes. Breathe!
I have some examples of the more common things you see on this type of list. Just let
them rip. Don't worry about their order.
1._________________ I don't like my career.
2._________________ My sex life sucks.
3._________________ I don't have time to do the things I enjoy.
4._________________ My finances are out of control.
5._________________ My friends are sucking all my energy.
6._________________ My boss is an @$$#0??.
7._________________ I need to get back into shape.
8._________________ I don't want to go home for the holidays.
9._________________ I can't stand this dump I am living in
10.________________ If I have to drive that car one more year...
O.K. Congratulations, you made it. If you did this you have done more than the majority of the people on this planet have ever done to relieve their suffering.
- By identifying them you named them. This is the first step out of denial.
- Denial is the only real tool we have for dealing with despair, unless we have a system for misery resolution.
Based on how our relationships, jobs, finances, and our need to escape our lives is going, it is obvious how many of us don't have a joy resuscitation system.
This is where most processes for prosperity get themselves lost. You have a list. But the items on the list are all stated in negative statements. The problem with this is, the brain cannot hold onto negative statements. The negative statements belong to a world that we were not designed for. Therefore in order for the brain and the mind to understand and remember them: they must have a positive element. Otherwise, you will see them as making no sense, which defeats the purposes of the list. We can only internalize negative messages after prolonged exposure to them. It takes a whole lot of negative messages before we can internalize them, because it is not natural for us to internalize them. It is also not natural for us to express negative messages to others. We only do this after we have internalized them ourselves.
- Before anything can be motivated on, it must represent positivity, or it is abuse. No matter how it is communicated, we cannot hear anything constructively unless it is positive in nature. This is why a lot of complaining does not always help us. Our unconscious cannot understand what the mind is asking by these statements. The unconscious may even think that it is being asked to create more misery, because it hears so much of it. This is where positive self talk comes in to play.
O.K. You made it to the next step. Kudos for hanging in there. I would like you to change all of your negative statements to positive ones.
1. I would like to create a career that I enjoy doing, that is fun, and fulfilling. ( I don't like my career)
2. I would like to know how to ask my partner to meet my sexual needs. (My sex life sucks!)
3. I would like to organize my time to have more leisure time. ( I don't have enough time to do the things I enjoy).
4. I would like to be at peace with abundance and prosperity. ( My finances are out of control).
5. I would like to surround myself with friends who can exchange energy appropriately. (My friends are sucking all my energy).
6. I would like to be able to stand up for myself with my boss and others. (My boss is an @$$#0??).
7. I would like to love myself in such a way that I can feel O.K. in my own skin. ( I need to get back into shape).
8. I would like to have boundaries with my family. (I don't want to go home for the holidays).
9. I would like to change my environment so that it gives me energy. (I can't stand this dump I am living in).
10. I would like to own a vehicle that is dependable and fun. ( If I have to drive that car one more year…)
Wow! You are on your way to becoming a pro at this. You are almost done. The next step is to find resolutions to the needs that you have just converted to positive statement requests. This is easy, yet most people think it is the hardest part to do. They have been trying to do this for years with no results. As a mentor I have become very suspicious of people who think they don't have answers to their problems. I have learned it is very rare that you have a problem without a solution. If you don't believe that you have solutions, then you don't, because what you believe is true. It will remain untested and unchallenged forever.
- What I would like you to do now is an association exercise. I would like you to take a notepad and write as fast as you can, ten resolution to each statement. If you have a hard time doing this with the first three or four, I would suggest you write them with your opposite hand or go write them someplace where you would not normally write: in the shower while the water is running, while you are running after a cab - keep it safe. You will be surprised at the results.
- The next step is to show some trusted friends your positive statement requests. Pick friends who will not shame or judge you. Ask them to write ten association statement requests for you, too. Then compare yours to theirs. Take the best of them and make a list.
- Now it is research time. I would like you to go find as much free information about each statement request as you can. Call attorneys, get a free hour. Go to the library and find books. Ask strangers in line next to you if they happen to be talking about something that is on your list.
- Now take this information and create a strategy-structure to implement. A strategy-structure is a plan of action. Break this structure down into smaller units to keep up your momentum. Increase the size and number of the unit to be implemented as you gain mastery with the structure. If you have too much, you get overwhelmed; too little, and you will lose time.
- Now go back to the friends whose ideas you are using. Ask them to review what you have learned and what you intend to do with the information as a plan of action.
- The next step is a big one. I want you to ask your friends to meet with you at a regularly scheduled time to review how you are doing with your strategy-structure action plan. Unless, of course, you run into them. Talk about the gains, stalls, and setbacks. Remember, no shame or judgment. This is a new process for you and for them, too. Don't be surprised if they ask you to go through this process with them.
- Now the last step. I would like you to carry the plan of action with you. Sleep with it. Post it everywhere: on the mirror in the bathroom, or the dashboard of your car. I would like you to work one of the statement requests with its strategy for resolution into a conversation when you are talking with someone. Work down the list, one statement request with each conversation. Just slip it in. Don't make a production out of it unless the people you are talking with jump on it with help, information, and support.
This may feel very strange and not spontaneous at first. Yet people who use intuition and synchronicity do this without even knowing it with people who don't know it is being done. This is all in the realm of the invisible consciousness. This part of you starts listening and draws to you the resolution that it is being asked for. Not just by you, but by the world around you. You are now working with positivity. This brings a perpetual flow of information and resolution into your life. The people who passed the information on to you, upon seeing you again, almost always ask how it is going. They are now part of your resolution, like the friends you asked for help with your review. If it is not going well, they always have more information. Don't be afraid to ask for a phone number. Be respectful of their boundaries. You don't owe them anything, so maintain your boundaries. Just thank them for their help. All of these behaviors are what would happen automatically if the world ever gets around to realizing that we have learned all that we can from misery. It is time to get back to authentic joy!
May you have great intuition and synchronicity!!!! --Joseph